Table for One: It's Great to be Single

By Dara Ereshena on November 16, 2012

The other day I was sitting in a room with a bunch of friends and we were all talking and somehow the subject of boyfriends came up. I looked around and realized that everyone in the room had a significant other besides me. First thought: Holy crap, I’m SO single.

The conversation continued and all I listened to was how ‘so and so’ did this or didn’t call/text them, etc. Second thought: Never mind. I LIKE being single. Now I know what you are thinking, “Well, she has to say that.” No, no I don’t: I actually like being single. And I’m not just saying it because I have to and deep down inside I’m crying alone with my five cats, I actually have reasons (and only one cat).

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  1. Money in the bank. No boyfriend means I don’t have to spend extra money on dates, birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, Christmas, etc. That money stays in the bank where I will most likely use it to buy myself everything on Amazon. You may think “Oh, that’s pretty sad,” but meanwhile, you are trying on my newest boots.

 

  1. The whole mattress. I don’t sleep in one position, I sleep in every position. Therefore, I need my room; I need my blankets and trust me when I say I can’t be molded into the cuddling type. Until it is acceptable for couples to sleep in different beds, I will voluntarily stay single forever.

 

  1. No compromising. I want sushi for dinner. Guess what? I get it because I don’t have to compromise with someone else and end up getting Mexican because I apparently chose dinner last night.

 

  1. People. Being single has made me more adventurous and willing to try new things and meet more people. I’m never worried that I shouldn’t be talking to another guy and I never limit myself to anything; I just enjoy a good conversation and hearing about different experiences.

 

  1. Saturday Nights. I love going out but some of the best nights I have ever had included only me. A good movie, my favorite dinner, some wine, and comfy pajamas? Sign me up for that every night. Some people find it pathetic, but in reality it’s not. I do the things that I absolutely love and I realize that as nice as it would be to share that with someone else it wouldn’t make it any more special.

 

  1. Me. I’ve become me. I still have a lot more growing, changing, and molding, but I’ve realized what I like, what I want, and where I want to be all on my own (which is how it should be). I’ve become more confident in who I am as a person because I understand my needs as a person and gave myself the time to reflect upon myself as an individual. I’ve accomplished so many personal goals that I didn’t even know I wanted because I’ve been able to focus on myself and everything I need to be happy.

 

Some people will disagree and say that I am just making lame excuses for always being single, and that’s fine. I may have some problems and have had my dating blunders in the past, but I don’t feel ashamed of being single. I’m proud of it, because I know who I am and what makes me happy. How can I expect myself to be happy in a relationship when I am not happy with myself? Doesn’t that count for something?

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